Out with the old, In with the new

Happy new year. Out with the old, in with the new

So 2016 is almost over. I noticed around the web that people really hated this year and it will go down in history as the worst year ever. Bye bye 2016. Please go back to whatever evil place you came from.

Everything in this life has a balance. Yin Yang. There can't just be bad all the time, there has to be good too. Looking back...this was the year I finally started my blog after two years. I got more comfortable driving my car that I waited 9 years to get, because I was too scared to get my license. I finally stepped on an aeroplane for the very first time. My ears still hurt sometimes, but I know now what it's like to fly on top of the clouds.

I now have another dog after waiting more than a year. It had to be another Buffy type dog. So I waited and waited. I was surprised when I finally got her, because I thought I had to wait until next year. This year Buffy and I started to communicate better, because I learnt all about dogs and how to train them. I'm a naturally nervous person and scared of a lot of things. I suffered from anxiety most of my life. So most things I listed were big milestones for me.

Yes it has been frustrating at times to raise a new dog, but there were happy moments in between. Like the first time my puppy ate normal dog food after not wanting to eat or drink anything. First time I realised my two dogs actually like each other after it seemed that Fluffy was just annoying Buffy. First time she fell asleep on my lap and also realising that I have a very smart new dog.

I also discovered I have some anger issues that I need to deal with asap lol. I didn't know I could scream so loud. The two of them drive me insane sometimes. It's also frustrating that there's different opinions about how to raise a dog in my house. Other than that I love that my dogs always want to be around me. They come when I call. They listen for the most part. My bestie pointed out that I'm a pack leader now. I like the sound of that.

I never want to forget the happy moments. Those are the ones we look back on that make us laugh and smile. What happy moments do you remember from this year? Your achievements. The things that made you laugh and smile. However big or small they are don't let the bad overshadow the good.

Most people already made their new years resolutions by now. We all know by middle January when life gets in the way those resolutions will be a distant memory. I decided not to make any resolutions. Whats the point? I've always been a whatever happens, happens type of person. If you ever stuck to a new year's resolution, good for you.

Changing habits is a process. It takes time. Like a set of steps that you have to climb. A new year shouldn't be a reason to rush to the top. Start with something small and achievable. Maybe, just maybe it will snowball and before you know it you've reached your goal.

Happy new year. Out with the old, in with the new quote

The main thing is to just start. Or try. People change, goals change. Last year this time I never would have imagined writing a blog or interacting on social media. That was not me. I hate attention and I never wanted everyone to know what's going on in my head. But there was something inside me that wanted to share my stories. A part of me that thought someone might benefit from them. I'm not even sure if anyone has. I was brave enough to try. All we can do is try. It's better than doing nothing. So I tried something and I loved it.

There's a lot of things to try doing in this life. Maybe make a list of things you want to try. Even if it's only once. If you don't like it, move on to the next thing. That's the only way you will find out what you like. There's no committing, no promises, no high expectations. There's many different ways to do something, find out what works best for you.

So before I go waayyyy off topic. I hope you can look back at 2016 and find the moments that made you happy. I wish 2017 will be full of new opportunities for you to explore and may there be an abundance of happy moments. Nothing will ever stay the same. Life changes constantly. All we can do is hold on to the good memories and try to let the bad ones go.

Thank you all my blog followers for supporting me. I appreciate it more than you know. Some of you have become friends because we are like minded. I'm happy that 2016 gave me the chance to meet all of you. Happy new year everyone!!! See you all in 2017 :-)

Until next time
Goodbye


Happy new year! from Buffy, Fluffy and Renza

Living with my new house mate, Fluffy

Living with my new housemate Fluffy

It’s an intruder! Nope! It’s my new house mate Fluffy. Grrr!!

Woof! Hello humans! I bet you all want to know how things are going with me and Fluffy the new puppy. Why is she even here? Does mommy really need another doggie? She is super annoying you guys. Grrr!!

She keeps chasing me around and I caught her in my kennel multiple times. She tries to eat my food that she can’t even chew properly and then to top it off she thinks my doggy bed is hers. She keeps laying on it. Who does that? I swear it’s like she’s a copy cat. That would explain why she’s so flexible.

I think she’s trying to take over. It’s my territory and my mommy Renza. Oh and I see how she bites mommy. She bites everyone!

Mommy lets us hang out so that we can bond. We are separated for now. I do the sniffing thing, but she only smells like trouble. I wonder how I can sell a puppy. Will mommy even notice she’s gone? I licked her head the other day for the first time and she tasted like trouble too.

I wrote a little ad for selling a puppy. Let me know if it sounds right.

Naughty Puppy For Sale!


Fluffy my new puppy

Woof! I’m looking for someone that wants to buy a puppy. She’s a poodle mixed with maltese or some other breed. I’m not sure. She’s 7 weeks old and sleeps a lot. She won’t bother you that much I promise. Only when she's awake. Be careful not to leave your feet exposed, because she eats feet. She’s cute so that might make up for her evil nature.

Call 0800 HELP ME

I’ll give her to the first caller.

How does that sound you guys?

Fluffy and Buffy playing
Fluffy attacking me!
There’s a chance mommy might notice she’s gone. I think she brainwashed her already. I don’t want to make Renza sad, so I’ll give the evil puppy another chance. I'll be on the lookout for any bad behaviour and report back to you guys. After one month if she has not changed her evil ways, then I'm posting the ad. Woooof! Woof!


Fluffy and Buffy sleeping
Nap Time
Update
So Fluffy and I are besties now you guys. Don't ask me how that happened. I think she brainwashed me too. I stopped running away from her and then realised she just wants to play. Now I have two besties! Renza and Fluffy. Mommy Renza is happy she can leave us alone to play without worrying that Fluffy will attack me. We play for hours and hours and I share everything with her except my food. Food is off limits! Grrr!!!

Author: Buffy
Job: Guard dog, part-time blogger
Likes: Playing and hanging out with Renza and Fluffy, eating and sleeping
Dislikes: Grooming and food thieves

Pic credit:  Mommy Renza and her cheap phone camera.

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How to make a good first impression when meeting other dogs
7 Survival tips when your human is cookoo

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Guest post from Fluffy

Guest post from fluffy

Ruff-Ruff! Hello humans! I'm Fluffy. My new human, what’s her name again?...it sounds funny…Oh yes! Renza asked me to introduce myself. Apparently she and the big dog have a blog together. Is that normal? I’m new so I don’t know.

Its been a few weeks since they stole me from my mommy and siblings. Who does that? I guess they are treating me ok-ish. This Renza human bought me a nice soft doggie bed, blanket, some toys to bite or play with and some other stuff. I have a rope toy that looks similar to the big dog’s rope, only smaller but I prefer to play with his rope.

Who is this big dog anyway? Renza human calls him Buffy or Doebeloo. What is a doebeloo? What’s up with all that hair? I like chasing him around just to see how his hair moves. It’s really funny. Renza human and Buffy dog are really close. I’ve already started my infiltration plan. Both of them are on to me though. Luckily I'm cute and small so I can get away with anything. I bite Renza's feet and hands. She's very annoying. Keeps picking me up. Why? I don't know. 

Fluffy sleeping
Me relaxing on Buffy's bed
The big dog has his own little house. I go visit it sometimes when he’s not there. He’s so big. Will I look like that one day? I think he’s just made out of hair. I eat his food, play with his toys and sleep on his bed. They think I'm just copying the big hairball because I want to be like him. I'm not copying anyone. I'm taking over!

I told this Renza human that I refuse to write for this blog.  The big dog does whatever his Renza tells him to do. Not me! I have better things to do. It's sleeping time now. I’m still growing so sleep is important. I might do a little chasing and biting later. Grrr!!

Goodbye forever! 
Ruuuuf-Ruff!!


Fluffy on dog bed
Me sleeping

Author: Fluffy
Job: Doing puppy stuff
Future plans: World domination
Likes: biting feet and hands
Dislikes: baths and being picked up

We're different and we're the same

We're different and we're the same

While thinking about relationships and the connections we form in our lives, I thought about the differences and similarities between people.  For someone like me that always thought of myself as separate from everyone else, it was important that I started noticing the similarities between me and others instead of always focusing on the things that made me different.

The one thing humans crave the most is connection. Seeing similarities in others can make us feel less alone. No matter what our goals in this life may be, the main reason behind them will always be that we want to feel accepted, loved and more connected to the people we care about in our lives.

Meeting my best friend was probably one of the best things that ever happened to me. I stopped feeling so alone and he reminded me that I'm not. I saw myself in him and it felt like coming home. It felt like I belonged. We don't agree on everything and certain things that he likes, I don't and vice versa, but there are so many similarities in our personalities. The differences and similarities balance each other out. The different views he has about certain things is an opportunity for me to see another perspective. To learn something new.

This made me appreciate the differences between me and others more and it also prompted me to start seeing the similarities I have with my family. I started noticing that I have my mom's sense of humour, my grandma's empathy for others and my grandpa's introverted nature. I am a combination of all of them. I no longer felt like an outsider in my family. I was part of them.

As humans, that feeling of being separated can make us feel depressed, anxious and unable to function the way we were meant to function. Only when I felt more connected, was when I felt less depressed.  I felt like I could cope with everyday life better and the parts of me that was hidden came to light. Only other people can bring out the parts of us that we hide and that we're not even aware of. So yes! Connection is very important.

I know sometimes we want to shut the world out. Be alone in our misery. Misery hates company. The weird thing is that people can actually lift your mood. It can be a close friend, a family member that understands you, even a complete stranger. 
Ever heard someone saying talking about it helps. It does!

When a light shines on something that is dark, the darkness goes away. Keeping things bottled up makes them worse. Talking to someone is a way to release the bad feeling and because people have different perspectives about things, someone else's opinion or advice will help you see that something might not be as bad as it seems or they can help by sharing similar experiences and how they dealt with it. Just talking and them listening can also be effective. 

Writing about your feelings can also help. Alot of people use their blogs or social media as an outlet. My blog is a way for me to express myself in ways I couldn't before. I share so much on here for everyone to see. By sharing I found that some people actually feel the same way as I do or has gone through similar experiences. Sharing through my writing made me feel more connected to others.

I was always a very stubborn person. It's in my nature. Lately I'm trying to be more open minded. To see other people's perspective, because I know now that we all see this world differently. The things that happened in our lives shaped us and that's why everyone has a different perspective. That's why people like different things and have different opinions.

Sure similarities can make us feel understood and it's nice to not constantly explain yourself, but the differences are important too. I believe we came into this life to constantly learn and grow. The differences between us is a way for us to grow as people and to learn from each other. But some are too stubborn and not willing to accept another's view.


Almost everyone in my life is stubborn. I think that's why it was always so hard for me to feel understood. I was raised by a generation that lived in a world completely different from the world we live in today. They think their view is rule and someone else's view can't be accurate.  That was also my way of thinking. 

That way of thinking can lead to arguments. Wars get started that way. I now believe people should be more open minded. To consider that someone else's view might also be accurate. Yes, some views don't make logical sense, if you can't agree, respect them. We are after all a product of our experiences in this life. 

We can all learn from each other. Try to be more open minded. You never know what you might learn. Also try to find similarities in the people and things around you. It will make you feel like you're not on your own little island. Even though everyone is not the same, there are a lot of similarities between us.

Until next time
Goodbye

Other Renza Posts:
What is beauty? 
Healing your inner child 
 
Pic credit: Pixabay pics Renza edited.

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Nominations for the Versatile Blogger Award

My versatile blogger award - buffyandrenza.blogspot.com
My Versatile Blogger Award
Today I have some awesome news. The talented Susan Leighton nominated me for the Versatile Blogger Award. At first I thought it was a mistake, but after rubbing my eyes I saw that was definitely my name on her list. If you are nominated, you’ve been awarded the Versatile Blogger award. Thank you very much Susan for nominating me.

First of all congrats to Susan for her Versatile Blogger award/nomination. I actually wish I could nominate her back, because she is one of my favourite bloggers. She always supports other bloggers and has a kind heart. She's hilariously funny and I always make sure I don't eat anything when I see her latest post updates, otherwise I laugh too much and I'm afraid if I choke Buffy and Fluffy will just look at me funny instead of helping me out. Besides that, she also writes the most beautiful short stories on her off the ledge blog. Here are the links to her two blogs Woman on the ledge and Off the ledge. Make sure you check it out if you haven't already.

My blog is only three months old and it's such a nice feeling to be recognised for the work I've put into it. I might not have a lot of followers and I'm new to the blogging community, but along the way I met some awesome bloggers. This is my first blog award and I would not have lasted three months without the support of my human bestie, my furry bestie Buffy and my readers.  Thank you. I appreciate all the g+1, shares and comments.

I read the rules ( VBA rules - For Nominees) of this award and I'm suppose to list 7 facts about myself and nominate other bloggers for the award. The award says nominate people that blog about many things, I guess I do that too. But I think everyone blogs about different things, unless there's a blogger out there that just blogs about one thing, e.g. eggs or bread...If their blog survived then they are truly awesome.

I want to nominate the bloggers that I keep coming back to. They make me think about life, they make me laugh when I need a good laugh and some make me emotional when I feel a little shut down. Since I started blogging I had to dive into social media and I'm always on the lookout for other bloggers. So here we go...

Stuff about me

1. I'm an only child. Or did I tell you guys that already.

2. My first language is Afrikaans. Yep! Dankie al my lesers.

3. I have attached earlobes. My bestie says it freaks him out. I like my ears, I don't think its freaky at all. The only thing I find freaky about it is that both my parents and family members have detached lobes. Just my one cousin that I grew up with shares that trait with me...and nope she looks nothing like me either lol.

4. I'm a tv series addict and I spend a lot of time binge watching tv shows. I'm also a candy crush and paradise bay addict. I am a master procrastinator after all so don't judge.

5. I live with my grandparents and they also raised me. Grandma is 90 and grandpa is 93. After I stopped working two year ago I decided to stay home and look after them, while figuring out my life of course. They can do everything for themselves, but the hearing, sight and memory are not so sharp anymore.

6. Buffy was actually my nephew's dog, then he became the house pet. Last year after he was bitten I claimed him as my own. We were inseparable after that. Everyone then said I'm like his mommy and yes he's my furbaby. :-)

7. I love rock music. I like pop. I don't like Rnb and rap. Sorry bestie and other rap and Rnb lovers. I tried to listen to it and then my ears bled.

8. I hate eggs. No, I'm not allergic to them, I just hate them. Any egg haters out there? We can start a egg hating Google plus community ;-)

Oh, was I supposed to list 7 facts? I felt the egg thing was important to mention.

My nominations

1. Diane Lynn - The Gratitude Letters - http://www.thegratitudeletters.com - Diane has this beautiful nature about her and always seem to find the good in this mess we call life. She always reminds us to be better and do better. As someone that's on a self discovery journey, I find it good to have these reminders.

2. Saroja Vasanth - Magicmindzhttp://magicmindz.wordpress.com - I discovered Saroja's blog when she wrote a beautiful post about her dog Bruno. It made me so emotional and I thought about how much I love my dog Buffy. Not everyone gets it, but she does.

3. Gauthier Gaspard - http://www.gauthierlifestories.com - He was probably one of my first followers. He writes these interesting observations about people and I love reading his post because I'm also an observer of people and life in general. He has a happy go lucky attitude about life and he's a true optimist. I tend to be a glass half empty type of person sometimes and it's not natural for me to always be positive. I need to be reminded a lot. So it's nice to learn from a natural optimist like Gauthier.

4. Joana Salazar - My Gigantic Thought Bubble - http://mygiganticthoughtbubble.wordpress.com Joana is a poet. She writes the most beautiful poems or creative writings as she calls it and there's so much emotion behind the words. She has a gift of putting feelings into words.  I promised her I'll write a poem on my blog one day lol. Soon Joanna, soon.

5. Mike Senczyszak - Solsbury Hill - http://senczyszak.com - Mike created his own award called the Blogging Survivalist Award. You can basically just nominate yourself . I commented one day if I reach three months I might need to add that thing to my blog, because there's no way that someone will nominate me for an award. He said he will be looking out for my three month Blogging Survival Award post. I actually got a real one Mike and I'm  passing the torch on to you. Thanks for the laughs and inspiration. I might do the survivalist award post when I survive 6 months lol

6. Tim Clark - Life Explained - http://tim-thingsastheyare.blogspot.com- Tim has a lot of blogs. I'm still trying to read them all. Dr. Dawg read my horoscope last month and it was truly terrifying. Tim pulled some strings and I guess I'm not doomed any more. He is probably the King of versatility so he definitely deserves an award for that. Thanks for the laughs and explaining life stuff to me Tim.

7. Jesse Zahrt - Average Jester - http://averagejester.blogspot.com- Jesse also writes about a lot of things and contributes to Tim's life explained blog and the whacko blogs and the list goes on and on. I enjoy his family life posts. I did not have a traditional upbringing. So it's nice to see parents actually being there for their kids. Jesse and Sarah you're doing an awesome job raising your two beautiful daughters. They are lucky that both their parents are present in their lives.

8. Bradley Stoner - The Square Peg - http://sbradleystoner.blogspot.com - Bradley is really funny and I always get a good laugh reading about his Bob encounters. What is wrong with that Bob?

9. Captain Kirk - To Baldly Go - http://www.kirt.me.uk - The Captain draws his own pictures for his blog. Isn't that awesome! He is very creative and talented. He writes about life, his wife and kids. Plus he's a Doctor Who fan and I love Doctor Who. Maybe we'll see a Doctor Who drawing on his blog soon. hint hint.

That's it! I hope I didn't forget anyone. I'm sure I can add to the list later. I have puppy brains so I'm forgetful these days. That puppy is a weird one. Cute, but seriously weird.

Congrats to all of you! I truly love all your blogs and I'll keep coming back to them every time. I've been inspired by each and every one of you that I nominated. I know I'm new to the blogosphere and it probably seems like I just appeared out of the thin air. I've never even followed a blog before three months ago. I haven't found the right ones until now I guess. Thank you for the laughs, inspiration and support.

Until next time
Goodbye

Pic credit: I changed the original award pic a little and added some stuff. Hope the award people won't mind.

How to make a good first impression when meeting other dogs

How to make a good first impression when meeting other dogs

Woof! Hello guys! So you all already know I don’t have a good track record for making a good first impression when meeting other dogs, but I know what not to do so I might still be helpful. Here’s what I know…

  1. When seeing another doggie for the first time, don’t chase or try to play with them immediately. Big mistake you guys. You need to be polite and sniff a bum! It’s how doggies say “Hello”. We can also determine the other dog’s age, if they're male or female and if the dog is healthy. Just by sniffing! The order you sniff in is also important. If you and the other dog sniff at the same time, you are equals. On the other hand if you sniff first or the other dog sniffs first, then the first sniffer will be the dominant one. So be fast and dominate!
dogs meeting
Two random doggies meeting
  1. Biting the other dog is a big No No. That’s just rude! Smell them, then maybe initiate a friendly game of chase or wrestle. Remember No teeth!
  1. Be well groomed and clean. This is more for the other dog’s human. They won’t let their dog play with a dirty dog. I know, I know, it’s not ideal. I also prefer to be dirty, but the humans are in charge. So let your human wash you.
  1. Share your stuff. It’s not nice to share things, but if you want to make friends you will need to learn to share toys and treats.
  1. Be social. Don’t hide behind your human. Go make some doggy friends. They speak your language and you can learn a thing or two from them. Hopefully you were not the last bum sniffer…Haha! Then you’re on your own.
meeting dogs
Example of dog getting annoyed with another dog. Grrr!!
I hope this was helpful guys. Doggies that make a bad first impression make humans scared and then they keep us away from other dogs. So stop messing it up for the rest of us. Grrrr!!... Woof!! Woof!!

Oh I almost forgot you guys. We have a new member in our family. Mommy got her yesterday as a surprise early Xmas gift. Now there's two of us! Humans please don't give puppies or kittens as gifts, not everyone can handle the responsibility. Yep! Mommy is clueless. She knows nothing about puppies. I did the bum sniffing thing and I'm starting to get used to Fluffy. Mommy washed both of us. It was no fun grrrr and she used my old towel for the thing...I mean puppy. Ok fine! I'll admit I have some puppy issues to work through. Wooooof!!!


Fluffy the new puppy

Buffy and Fluffy meeting
Me and Fluffy circling each other

Other Buffy Posts:
7 Survival tips when your Human is cookoo
The horrors of wash day and tips to get you through it

Pics credit: From pixabay free stock images and Renza added stuff. Fluffy and Buffy(me) pics taken by Renza with a bad phone camera.